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Helen Boyd

Helen Boyd is the author of My Husband Betty (Thunder’s Mouth, 2004), a Lambda Literary Award finalist now in its 4th printing. She ha

s spoken about transgender and GLBT issues on PBS’ In the Life and at conferences and colleges nationwide. Her blog (en)gender can be found at www.myhusbandbetty.com.

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(To Be or Not to Be) Monogamous
In the various communities we represent at Dark Odyssey, explorations of non-monogamy and polyamory are popular, and being monogamous can feel “uncool.” But what about those of us who consciously choose to be in a monogamous relationship? Can we be sex radicals and still be with just one partner? Helen, who is in a monogamous relationship with her partner Betty, will be speaking about the positive side of monogamy: what it helps them achieve as a couple, why it fits for them and others, how and why it makes for good sex. Come join the discussion and share your own experiences.

Uneven Libidos: When Your Partner Isn’t as Sexual as You
Some of us who have hearty sexual appetites and/or are sexually adventurous may be partnered with those who are not as enthusiastic about sex or have a less hungry libido than ours. What are the issues, dynamics, and conflicts raised when partners are erotically incompatible? Let’s address the difficulties and explore solutions that work.

Transgender Sexualities: A Facilitated Discussion
Loving someone who is transgendered is like navigating a minefield: it's okay to touch here, not there, and I like it when you make me feel like that - sometimes, when I'm okay with being trans. Being the transgendered person is about fantasizing that other body, your own and also your partner's. We can talk about how to explore fantasies without threatening the relationship, letting trans-ness lead the way into a sexuality that is more about minds than parts. Or bring your own topics, and we can discuss those too.

Trans-Sex & Identity
Transgendered identities are creating a sexual landscape where you can't assume what the "opposite" or "same" sex is. Straight identities have morphed into bisexuality, heteroflexibles, queer het and questioning. Lesbians dating transmen are suddenly straight? Gay men dating MTFs are _______? Or doesn't identity have anything to do with sex now that the trans-community is having its say? Let's talk about some of the varieties of
transexuality in the bedroom.